No Beans About It…

February 12, 2010

Feeling bored and trying to lighten up my blog posts here I figured I would put my grandmother’s awesome chili recipe here for any of you guys to try.  All this cold weather has me wanting to make a big pot of it.  It has one 2nd place in out church chili cook-off a few years back.  I like it because it doesn’t have any beans in it and it has celery in it.

Mama’s famous chili:

  • Brown and drain 2 lbs lean hamburger meat
  • Add the following ingredients
  • 1 Chopped Bell Pepper
  • 1 Chopped Onion (medium)
  • 2-3 stalks of celery chopped up
  • 2 – 14 oz cans of Tomato Sauce
  • 2 – cans of orignal Rotel Chopped Tomato’s and Peppers
  • 1 – 8oz Can of Tomato Paste
  • 1 – 14 oz can of diced tomatoes
  • 1 Tablespoon of Worcestershire Sauce
  • 1 Table Spoon of White vinager
  • Add 3-4 teaspoons of Chili Powder as spicy as you like it.
  • Add 1 Teaspoon of Ground Cumin
  • For an extra kick you can add a dash of Red Cayenne Pepper and some chopped up Jalapeno’s

Let it all simmer on Med to Med-Lo for a few hours (the longer the better) and serve it up hot with some crackers and a baked potato.  If you get daring you can load your potato with chili and cheese and top it off with some Frito’s brand corn chips.


Band of Brothers

February 12, 2010

This blog is for the band of brothers I call my fellow youth pastors.  We meet once a month to eat lunch, talk about ministry and pray for each other.  It is one of my favorite times all month and you never know how many times you will laugh your head off.  The name of our group is called G.A.S.P. (Gwinnett Association of Student Pastors) We are a mix of Baptist, Methodist, and non-denominational churches.   There are even several pastors from the neighboring Walton County that come.   I still think we should have named the group G.W.A.S.P. for the Walton Co guys and then we could have made the “G” a silent “G” we could have been called “gWASP”  We had an especially good meeting yesterday, we talked about our struggles and items that we wanted help and advice with.   The “iron sharpens iron” verse came to mind.   We shared ideas, opinions, and a good deal of humor.

March 12-14 we will have a county-wide Disciple now and have over 400 students participating together.  Landon Dowden will be bring ing the large group messages and worship will be led by Chris Orr and Band.  The cost of the event is $30 per student.  If you are intersted in participating just contact me.


Attendance vs Membership

February 10, 2010

This is the second part of a 2-post blog about church, before you read any further I would urge you to read the first part before you read this one.    You can link to it here.   http://wp.me/prUzS-4W

My advice to you or anyone who has a negative opinion about church or a particular church would be this; Get over it.  Now I said that in a nice way and I was smiling.    But seriously, find a church that preaches the whole word of God and that you can be a part of and join it.  Notice I said JOIN the church, not just merely ATTEND it.  I see a growing trend in today’s society where people are not joining a church, but rather that’s where they “attend.”   When you join a church, you say “I want to be apart of this local body of believers.”  You plant your life there and you are willing to do anything to see the body grow and thrive.  After all, if  the body dies so do all the organs within the body.  I love the example from Rick Warren book (Purpose Driven church) where he illustrates in a story that a part of the body doesn’t go and plant itself into another body when the body gets sick or hurt.  There is no “organ jumping” in our physical bodies, so why do so many people do it in the church.  There are of course many valid reasons why you might change churches (move, doctrine disagreement, etc.)

One of the reasons I think many people don’t join a church today is to avoid accountability.  They might not admit it at first, but might have had thoughts like the following ones below.  

  • “If I’m not a member of church X, then I can leave anytime I want to and go to church Z.” 
  • ” When I hear something that I don’t like or makes me uncomfortable I can pack and go.”
  • “I can live my life as I want to and if the church disagrees then I can find another church that agree’s with me and not learn and take correction.”  

Church begins to take on the same approach that some take a marriage, I’ll try it and see if it works, but at the first sign of trouble, I’m gone.

 Don’t let other people and their actions keep you from having the kind of faith that you are supposed to have being a part of a church body.  Seek forgiveness from other Christians and reconciliation when needed and enjoy the benefits it will bring. Many people would rather just pack and go and start over in a new church rather than to try and work out their differences and seek reconciliation and peace.  Doing the right thing, the Biblical thing is not always the easiest choice, but it is the most fruitful and the choice that God will bless. 

I realize as a minister I see things in a different light than someone else might see it.  I would welcome comments or other thoughts on the matter.  If you have any other theroies about why people would not join a church but become a lifelong guest.


I Had a Drug Problem

February 8, 2010

Yesterday,  I was sick and did not feel like spreading my germs around the church so I made the decision to stay home and try to rest up.   I let the kids sleep late and didn’t tell them we were not going to church.  In a panic my oldest came running down the stairs to tell me we over slept and were gonna be late for church.  I explained to her what happened and she went promptly back to bed.  Later in the day,  I made a comment that church should be just about over now, and my youngest said “They had church without us?” in a puzzled 4-year-old boy look.  I calmly explained to him that we are not the focus of church, Jesus was and that they would have church with or without us.   His response was comical, he said “Well, they shouldn’t do that!!”  I had a laugh and went on with my lunch.

Before I go any further, I want this Blog to come out as humble as I can and not with a hint of pride at all, that’s not what I’m thinking or after.  My sole wish is just to encourage those I have connection with to not give up on church.

As I sat there, I had one of those reflecting moments where you just see how you are blessed.  Church has been a part of my life since I’ve been alive and the same can be said for my kids, they have been involved in church as long as they have been alive as well.   Years ago, in sharing my testimony I used to jokingly start it out with “I had a drug problem…”  it would usually catch the person’s attention, and at least cause them to zone in, for at least a couple of minutes.  The rest of my opening sentence would say something like this,  “I had a drug problem…  I was drug to church.”  After few years I stopped saying that after my mom pointed out once that they really never had to drag me to church anytime, it was more of a voluntary move on my part.   Either way I am glad the church has always been a part of my life.  It is what helped me come to a realazation that I was hopeless and headed nowhere without Christ as my savior. 

The word church stirs up all kinds of emotions in different people.   For some, no doubt that it is an exciting place where God energizes his people and motivates them into ministries and missions, for others it’s a place of refueling a place to get out of the mess of the world, a safe place, still to others the word church might come in a negative light.   To them it is a place where promises are broken, lives are hurt, and injustices are seen.  If you have a negative attitude on church let me remind you of a few things about church that might just help you in your understanding of it.

1. The church is made up of the people not the building. (Acts 14:27 )  The church is alive and breathing it is not dead and gone.  The church is the bride of Christ. (Ephesians 5:25-30)  One day Jesus will return for his bride.(1 Thessalonians 4:17)  The church is where the people are, when they meet to fellowship, worship, disciple each other and team together for ministry and missions.  God ordained the church and it was His wish that the body of Christ work together as a local church. (Matthew 16:18, Ephesians 4:12)

2. Because the church is made up of people, it is not perfect.  Because we are all sinners and imperfect (Romans 3:23), so will the church be.  Jesus was the only perfect person to walk the earth and there has not been another one since He left.  Unfortunately people will let you down.  Even worse godly men who lead in churches each week can fall to sin and do more damage than a 2-ton wrecking ball.   I know I have done things in the past, (not immoral issues),  that have cause a negative light to fall on God and his church.  My aim is to try to not let that ever happen again. (1 Corinthians 10:32)  Other church members view their church more as a social club and want to take ownership of it with power-tripping decisions and arguments that cause the average non-church-going person to say “I don’t want any part of that.”  If you’re looking for the “perfect church” you will never find it.

I will finish my thoughts on church in a second post.  I just don’t want this to become to long and cause anyone to fall asleep reading it. But,  as for me and my kids, we are going to continue to stay involved in church and I will drag my kids to church if I have to, but I don’t see that being a problem in the future at all.


Superbowl Commerical Recap

February 8, 2010

You're playing like Betty White

Well, another year of great Superbowl commercials has come and gone.  I enjoyed the game and the commercials both this year.   For years, the beer commercials have had the market for the most funny commercials, but this year I think they have stepped aside and made room for several new winners.  This years commercials seemed to want to stick it to the guys more than usual.   Between the Dove, Dodge, and FloTV commercials I felt a little more manly after watching them.  I thought to myself, “At least I don’t do that!” 

We have also gone from the “Pant’s on the Ground” to “wearing no pants at all” in two of the commercials. (Dockers and Careerbuilder.com)  My daughter happened to be walking by the TV when both commercials came on back to back and she exclaimed ” They’re not wearing any pants! Gross!!”  I thought to myself, “but it’s supposed to be funny.”

I think my favorite commercial of the night was Snickers staring Betty White.  It was funny and nice to see the “old gal” can still bring the laughs.  She is a good sport and showed the world that she is not done making you laugh.

Focus on the Family – Tim Tebow Ad @ Yahoo! Video

Tim Tebow vs. GoDaddy.com  Well, I was looking forward to seeing the Focus on the Family Ad staring Tim Tebow and his mom.  It was highly criticized by many women’s rights groups for weeks before anyone actually viewed the ad.  As a strong pro-life person and against abortion I was excited that they took the opportunity to celebrate life.  Doctors are not prophets.  My wife and I have personally experienced when the doctor recommends “terminating a pregnancy” and then we trust God for the results and we now have a happy 9-year-old bundle of joy who I can’t imagine life without. 

Focus on the Family led by James Dobson is a great organization and  much of the hate they receive for standing up for their beliefs comes from people who don’t know them and what kind of people they are.  I heard so many lies about James Dobson in the weeks before the ad.  One person called  Dobson a “homosexual hater” and others made him out to be a loveless preacher of God.  They simply don’t know what they are talking about.

I think the woman’s right’s groups should be more upset with the GoDaddy.com commericials than the Focus on the Family ones.  GoDaddy.com shamelessly used the woman (Danica Patrick and others) as sex objects and not view them as women with standards and of the 21st century.  I’m sure that the GoDaddy.com website had several million hits last night to see the rest of the commercial that teased millions of men.  SEX SELLS.   After all was said and done last night I hope the women’s right’s groups noticed how much they over-reacted and took note of the GoDaddy.com comercials like I did.

You can leave your comments or take the poll below to cast your vote for your favorite commercial.

Get your hands off my Doritos!!


Superbowl predictions….

February 7, 2010

OK, It’s hours before the big game starts but here are my predictions and no, I don’t have any scientific evidence to support any of my predictions.

I think that the saints will take a emotional lead to start the game, but the Colts will come back in the way they did so many times this season.  Despite the rumors of a high scoring game,  I think it will actually be  a lower scoring game.  I think Dwight Freeney will play in the superbowl and his ankle will be just fine. 

The final score will be Colts 24 to Saints 17.

Feel free to post who you think will win on the poll.


Favorite Songs on 2009

February 4, 2010

I thought I would reflect on a few of my favorite songs from the past year  And a little about why  I like them.  I like a good variety of music and I get bored with the same stuff.  There is not a Top 10 type list, I just have the songs listed in the order I downloaded them.  

Fee - We Shine

Fee (Rock/Worship) – We Shine – I heard about this group early last year and found out they would be leading worship at Dare 2 Share a conference we attend in March.  I downloaded the CD a month before the conference to pick up the songs better at the conference.  Several of their songs were also used at Centrifuge(camp)  this summer also.   I have enjoyed the CD all year-long.  My 3 favorite songs from the We Shine Album are; “We Shine“, “Happy Day“, and “How Beautiful the Blood“.  I have made a point to learn these songs for worship on Wednesday nights with the students.  

Lacrae - Real Talk

LaCrae (Rap) – Real Talk – Of all the styles of music I think rap is my least favorite, but I still have a good collection of it.  I had been introduced to LaCrae several years back and I must say he is my favorite rap artist because his lyrics are “hard-core” for Jesus and he doesn’t back down, not to mention the music makes you want to dance.  The Real Talk album is an old one, but I wanted to complete my collection of his music and The guys I put up on the church bus every week like rap so I figured it would be a great investment.   My 2 favorite songs from the Real Talk album are; “Crossover” and “Represent“.  

Relient K - Forget and Not Slow Down

Relient K (Punk) – Forget and Not Slow Down – I’ve been a Relient K fan for years.  It’s been interesting to follow their musical progression from year to year.  They are a unique band that, for a lack of better words is just wierd, but I love wierd.  It’s amazing to me how the timing of this album being released and some circumstances in my life took place at the same time.  Several of the songs really ministered to me when I was a bit down and reminded me to keep going and not give up.   Last year was a tough year for so many people and I would recommend giving the CD a listen.  My favorite songs from the Forget and Not Slow Down album are; “Forget and Not Slow Down“, “Therapy“, and “Over It“.  

Chris Tomlin - Hello Love

Chris Tomlin (Worship) – Hello Love – It seems like every CD that Chris Tomlin comes up with are hits.  His lyrics in the music seem to help you express what’s on your heart, like he knows you, scary! Many of the lyrics come from scriptures also.  What a great way to hide the scriptures into your heart than through music.  My favorite song from the Hello Love album is “I will Rise“, it will remind you of the hope we all have Christ that one day we will leave the earth and spend eternity with Jesus in heaven.   

Family Force 5 - Christmas Padgent

Family Force 5 (Rock/Alternative/Electronic) – Christmas Padgent – FF5 has been another group I have enjoyed their wierdness.  They have a unique style all to their own and I must admit while their lyrics are not deep spiritually, they do put on a good show in concert and lift up Christ.  They toured with Toby Mac a for the last 2 years and came on scene.  I was looking for some different Christmas music, because I got tired of all the radio station music that is the same year after year.  They have put their own spin on some Christmas music that keeps you interested.  My favorite songs from The Family Force 5 Christmas Padgent album are “Little Drummer Boy” and “My Favorite Things“.


Every Leader Needs a… Jethro?

February 3, 2010

Jethro Bodine

That’s right, Every leader needs a Jethro, and no, I’m not talking about the one from the Beverly Hillbillies, but a much older one and one who was very wise.  This Jethro was the father-in-law to Moses. 

Jethro giving Moses advice

After the Israelites made their way into the dessert and begin to get used to the new life of Manna, Quail, and water from a rock things began to settle down.  Jethro had heard of all the great events that had taken place for Moses and the Israelites and wanted to reunite his family together again.  After meeting up in the dessert with his wife Zipporah, his father-in-law Jethro, and their two sons Moses began to share in person all the mighty works that God had done for them.  (Ex. 18:1-11)

After Moses spend some time with the family, it was then time for him to get back to work.  What did Moses do for work?  According to the scripture (Ex 18:13-16) he sat around all day acting as sole judge for the people handling disputes and arguments over everything from A to Z.

When Jethro saw what was going on he recognized that it was not a good thing that Moses was doing.  I think he saw the beginnings of a workaholic in the makings and perhaps new what it might do to Moses and his family.  Jethro offers some great advice to Moses and we will take a look at it and break down the advice, but, first it is important to see that Moses took the advice from Jethro and didn’t ignore it.  (Ex 18:24)  I think that this was a big step in the “young” leadership level of Moses.

The following are 3 reasons why we might not be as smart as Moses and ignore advice from others.  First, because far too many times we as leaders think we have it all figured out and we often turn a deaf ear to other advice from Godly men and women.  After all, God put us in charge right?  It also could be that we are insecure about our position and don’t want to take advice from others in fear that we will not look as smart.  Yet, another reason might be that we are in the position and enjoying the power a little too much and we don’t yield ourselves to other advice because we see it as a sign of giving up power.  

If you have found yourself dealing with any of those thoughts you need to pray them out of your system and recognize that Satan doesn’t want you to be smart like Moses and learn from others around you that are older and have more experience.  Young leaders have a greater tendency to fall into these pitfalls because they have had fewer years of experience and that budding desire to be young man or woman of God sometimes leads us make hasty decisions that we think are correct, but are not.  There is much excitement and emotion in youthfulness.

So let’s take a look at the advice that Jethro gave Moses.  There is much we can learn from his advice also.

The wisdom of age allowed Jethro to point out to Moses the end result. (Ex 18:17-18)  There is a lot to be said about knowing the end result.  Often times we start a process or idea without often thinking all the way through to the end.  This can lead to unnecessary steps in a plan or even repeated steps in a plan which wastes time, energy, and resources.

Second, Jethro encouraged Moses to use other people and not try to do it all by himself.  This process is called delegation.  Not too many leaders want to dive into that because they would rather “do it their way” or “in their time.”  Again I think there is a fear of giving up power or control when you delegate things.  When you have delegation in ministry you have to share the successes and the defeats, the good and the bad.  A selfish person finds it hard to share success with others, but there is no room for selfishness in ministry.

Jethro reminded Moses what his main job was, to be the representative from God to the people and to teach the laws of God and show the people how to live.  (Ex 18:19-20)  The judging had become a bigger issue for Moses and distracted him from his main purpose as leader of the Israelites.

Jethro’s advice was to select “capable men” (Ex 18:21) and not just anybody to share in the responsibility and position.  Here is the last leadership principle found in this chapter, Good leaders surround themselves with other good leaders or team members.

 Notice the “capable men” were described as godly men of integrity not as good-looking, well-liked, popular, those that have $20 haircuts or have beautiful families.  Jethro used the following descriptions:

            Men who fear God

            Trustworthy

            Men who hate dishonest gain

These 3 descriptions are very similar to the qualifications for deacons and overseers found in Timothy.  A good Baptist joke I know is that there are some churches that will take the list in Timothy and only focus on the divorce issue.  It doesn’t matter what kind of person they are as long as they haven’t been divorced.  That one qualification seems to rise to the top over the other ones.  A friend of mine has joked before that you can be a non-tither, wife and child beater and serve as a deacon as long as you haven’t been divorced in some churches.  Not all churches are like that and carefully look at all the qualifications equally. 

 A sure way to cause problems for yourself in leadership is just to settle for anyone to serve and help you in ministry and just throw anyone into a position without first.  I realize that you may say, there are not a lot of candidates to choose from out there, which is true but you can’t lower the Biblical standards just to fill a position.  There must be another way to go about staffing your needs.

 The result of shared ministry and delegation is that you can accomplish more together as a team than you can alone.  The old Oxen story goes that if 1 ox can pull 500 pounds each, but 2 oxen yoked together can pull 1,200 pounds.  Together more is accomplished.  Look at the Exodus 18:23, the scripture says it will both benefit Moses and the people at the same time.


Lady Gaga vs Celine Deon, Style over Substance

February 1, 2010

Wow, watching the Grammy’s Sunday night was a again an interesting affair.  I really don’t care for some of the things they do on the Grammy’s  They are always hosted by liberal people who want to push the envelop and create a “wow” factor that you just won’t forget, until a week or two later and the next “wow” factor occurs.   I still like to watch the Grammy’s  for the wide spectrum view inside the culture of youth and to at least take what was seen and turn it into a teachable moment.

Lady Gaga nd Celine Deon

So what did I see last night as a teachable moment?  Lady Gaga vs Celine Deon; Style over substance.  First, let me say I am not a fan of either one of these women, but I am familiar with their music and a little about their singing style and have heard both sing on live performances.  Making a quick comparison between these very different ladies you can see that each has their own different style and genre of songs.  The never ending charades with her outlandish outfits and racy lyrics are the center of all things Lady Gaga.  While Celine Deon relies mostly on her singing ability and powerful words in her song to sell her records.  So who’s more popular and looked at by millions of teens recently, Lady Gaga of course.

This just builds to the case of what I have seen recently in and around church life that given the choice most people will choice style over substance.  We don’t want quality any more, we just want to be entertained.   These discussions have brought to life the phrase “An Entertainment Society” I see where that is so very true.

I see this not only in the secular realm, but also in the church as well.   Most people would rather be entertained by worship music than take part in worship.  Most students would rather be kept laughing and playing games than to endure a 20 minute Bible study.  For several years now I have talked with other pastors and youth pastors in ministry about the nature of church and what we present before the youth of America.  It is scary to see some churches and student ministries that try to copy the ways of the world and the first thing to go is the great substance of the word of God.  I want to be clear here, I am all for funny and some great games, but when you drop the substance and replace it with water-down  message of God for style and entertainment I think you need to go back to the drawing board.  I do believe you can have both.  It is possible to have both a great show of style and the deep substance of music lyrics or of a Bible study.  A win-win combination.


Who do I File a Complaint With?

February 1, 2010

One of the great blessings you can receive from being a leader is to have a great group of followers.  It’s always encouraging to have people who are under your leadership that will support you in your endeavors and not question your actions and motives.  It helps build unity and can have a synergistic effect on the group, or body of Christ.  Just like becoming a great leader takes time, so does become a great follower.  And then again some people just never get it for what ever the reason.  Realizing that it takes time to develop will hopefully give you a little more patience and understanding in your area of leadership.

BUT, what do you do when you have those in the group that want to complain about something?  The complaint may be against you or something else that you have no control over, but as the leader you are the one that they will come to complain to, aren’t you the lucky one. 

When you move on in life you will always find complainers in everything you do.  The Israelites first complained to Moses saying we should have never left Egypt, at least we had food in the pot there.  (Ex 16:2-3)  They had taken a step of faith to follow Moses into the dessert and again just like the grumbling at the Red Sea, they began to grumble and complain at the first sign of trouble of no food.  Verse 2 says that the entire community was a part of the grumbling.  This just goes to show you that the Israelites must have been Baptist, you can’t mess with a Baptist’s food without expecting repercussions.  In reality it shows you that complaining can get to everyone and it can spread pretty easily.  In church and ministry situations you can find complaints coming from the most unlikely sources as well as the expected ones.   I imagine that the complaints started in one area or two of the entire camp and quickly worked their way around to the entire camp.  Times haven’t changed much and I know still that people like to talk.

Again, Moses wasted no time dealing with the complaints but immediately went to the Lord, he knew that God was the only source for his answers.  I remember as a young minister that I think I had to rely on God in a great deal of areas because there was a lot of new territory I was crossing into, granted I made my share of mistakes and still do, but as leaders earn more experience I think there is a tendency to rely more on yourself than on God as you did perhaps before.  We must always remember to rely on God for everything, big and small.

God responded to their need by giving them the quail in the evening and the Manna (heavenly bread) in the morning.  He gave them specific instructions on what to do to collect it and how much to collect each day. (Exodus 16:4-5, 14-19)   There is another lesson here that you can also pull from and remind people that God is a God of details and we need to be a people of details, obedience is important to God to the very smallest detail.  When you give instructions to those that are following you, they will not always be followed just like you asked them to be. (Exodus 16:20)  No matter how clear you make the instructions.  There will always be those who think they know of a better plan or way than what you have laid out before the people, while this may or may not be true, they still need to follow the lead of God’s chosen person unless it involves something unbiblical or unethical.  That’s why God put them in the place of leadership.

Also remember that people are slow learners sometimes, we may see the same pattern repeated over and over until the learning curve is met.  If you want Biblical proof, just look at the next chapter, Exodus 17, After the people complained about having no food, they then complained about not having any water to drink and began grumbling again, so soon after the Lord took care of their need with food.  (See Exodus 17:3)  So just keep that in mind that there will always be those who will grumble and who will complain and even those who will not follow the instructions given and cause trouble for themselves and others around them.